After spending what might seem like a lifetime with someone you love, you may come to the realization that there are many reasons that you have to let him/her go. There are various reasons to let someone go, and we all know that, it is very painful and sometimes difficult to commit that action. It might have been caused by the breakup of a relationship, the death of a loved one, or perhaps, letting go of your friends as they go off to their own separate paths. Life as you have known it will no longer be the same. Letting go of a life as you have known it, and accepting the changes that come with it, is difficult and can at times, be quite painful. Many people become really depressed and social outcasts and in some cases, this leads to suicide. However each of us needs to face having to Let Someone Go at some time in our lifetime.
For instance, on dealing with bad breakups, the first step is always very difficult. You must forget about your ex. In order to do this, first, delete any text messages and get rid of pictures, presents, and whatever it might be that will bring back your memory of your ex. Second, ask for help from your best friends of the same gender. They are the best source of advice for dealing with bad breakups. For girls, get your girlfriends together to have a sleepover, eat junk food, watch movies (never romance), gossip about boys all night long, and cry your heart out during that time (crying is optional). For guys, get your best buddies out for couple of drinks at the bar. If you are underage, grab a coke or sprite-whatever you prefer-and “pretend” it is alcohol and get your emotions out to your friends.
If you are dealing with the death of a loved one, letting go may be a bit more difficult than in a break up because generally, you will have known the person longer and will have stronger bonds with him or her. There is a four step process one goes through when losing a loved one. First, most people start out in denial that the actual incident occurred. The next step in this process is anger and resentment. You may blame yourself or those around you for the incident. The third step in this process is sadness. You may go into a short termed depression. The final step in this process is acceptance when the bereaved person accepts what happened and let’s go of the deceived loved one slowly. Dealing with death of a loved one may require some therapy sessions. It may not be a bad idea to get help from professionals in cases like this.
When you and your classmates go on your separate paths, you may experience some anxiety. It may even be difficult saying goodbye to those you despise. You will probably miss your classmates a lot, and in some cases, may go into a short termed depression. Letting go of your friends is less difficult to deal with than letting go of family members or exes. Today we have the technology to stay connected with our friends even if they are scattered around the blog. We can use facebook, email and our cell phones to keep each other updated. Even with this technology, however, you won’t be able to carry on your day to day friendship exactly the same way. You will especially miss those who you spend the most amount of time with. The best way to let go of a good friend and move on is to open yourself up to others who are presently close to you. Reaching out into the community and making new friends is a great way to let go of an old friend. Perhaps later in life, you and your old friend can meet up again, but the best way to let go of a friend is really just to let them go on her/his own path and make new friends.
As you can see, there are many real life situations in which you must let go of a person at some time in our life. Dealing with bad breakups, letting go of your loved ones, saying goodbye to friends, and processing other losses is always difficult. If you know how to deal with these situations correctly, you can get through it without spending your entire piggy bank on the therapy sessions or wasting perfectly clean Kleenex on a beautiful Friday night.
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